I have a lot of women in my Artist’s Way group @ Byron Community College complaining about how their lives are filled to the roof with to-do’s and have-to’s… and there is no time for creativity. BUT, they say… I HAVE CREATED THIS!!!
It’s true, we create the circumstances we find ourselves in. Not entirely – there is another great creator at work by our sides – you know the one, the guy in the sky, the Universe, Karma, however you like to see it… In my opinion, life is basically a function of how we deal with what we get dealt.
My simple answer to a life of overwhelm and bottomless to-do lists and coffee drips: the Law of Less is More. Which is fundamental to mastering the Art of Space. Which is essential in creating a life that you love to live. It’s time to de-clutter, people. Get rid of anything in your physical space, your emotional space, your time-space-continuum, that is not aligned with your greatest vision for who you truly wish to be and how you wish to live.
I once had a very gifted bass guitar student, whose lessons I consistently arrived at late, having been running around madly trying to get all my very important things done. She asked me a question that changed my life: “Why do you keep giving yourself so many things to do?”
From then on, every time I was about to give myself another thing to do (a national tour, a new website, another part-time job, a new hobby, a new friend), I would ask myself a series of questions, such as, will this improve my emotional well-being, my sense of fulfilment, my enjoyment of life? Do I have time for this? What can I drop to make space for this in my life? I learned to prioritise. I learned to create space in my life for the things that I love most.
Meditation. Deep relationships. Songwriting. Oceantime. Family. Community. Creative work.
Much of the time I found I was giving myself things to do in order to compete in the rat race – in which we are programmed to participate – probably from that moment those gazillions of sperm race to find the one tiny egg that becomes the foetus that becomes the beautifully imperfect human being our soul currently inhabits.
So I pulled out of the race and started putting health and happiness first. If that national tour was just going to make me feel stressed out, financially strained, and the mere thought of it was filling me with dread, then I wasn’t going to do it. If getting a day job for a while to fill the coffers, have a change of scenery and concentrate on my health for 12 months was going to help me, so be it. I got a job and took a year off gigging. No one even noticed.
In the words of blogger Mark Manson: “Realising that everything you do doesn’t matter is a good thing, because it means you no longer have any excuses not to be who you wish to be”. We get so caught up in these roles we and others assign ourselves, that we sometimes forget that we have choices, and that we can change our lives, one tiny choice at a time.
During a period of intensive yoga practise the alarming feeling that nothing I did really mattered that much started to seed inside me. The “rockstar” was just a game, so was the “struggling artist”, the “activist” and even the yogini herself. Life became a series of asana detoxifying me from years of stress, depression, anxiety and overwork for fear of not being enough. Through my yoga practise I discovered states of Samadhi – or bliss, deep oneness and realisation.
I became balanced, and for the first time in my life, happy. Other people’s expectations of me were the first to go, leaving only my inner yearnings, my guidance from source, an inner knowing of my true path and a deep trust that all was unfolding as it was meant to.
So, whilst I may not be super famous or own houses and helicopters and companies and all the rest of that kind of material stuff (yet), I have health and happiness and freedom and love and loads of time and space. To create art. To meditate. To walk the golden beach at sunrise and sunset. To love the people I love with care and attention. To capture songs that come down out of the ether and find me awaiting. To write this blog. To be grateful for and enjoy the things that I do have.
This doesn’t mean that I don’t work hard and often work 6 or 7 days a week. I do. But I structure space in my work flow for creative inspiration to come in, and practise my daily rituals allowing a little helping hand from the magical realms.
It also doesn’t mean I don’t wish to create more of certain things in my life. I do. I create space in my life for those things to enter. And enter they do…
The more we align with our truth and enter internal states of peace and happiness, and let go of the things that simply don’t serve our highest good, the easier it is for the things we want and need to flow in our general direction.
This is the Art of Space and the Law of Less is More.
Play with it. Let me know what you discover…
With love and magic,